Do you have “still face” managers in your organization? By “still face” managers I mean supervisors whose lack of emotion makes it difficult for them to connect and to get people fired up. They seem unable to express appropriate emotion when interacting with others. The disconnection the other person experiences can be confusing, discouraging or lead to reaching a wrong conclusion.
As part of the activities of the TCU Center for Connection Culture, I recently spoke to a group in Texas about the importance of connection and Connection Cultures for employees and organizations to thrive. I was making the point that we are “hardwired” from birth to connect; I showed a 2.5-minute video of “still face” research.
“Still face” is the name of a landmark experiment conducted by the developmental psychologist Edward Tronick, director of child development unit and distinguished professor at the University of Massachusetts in Boston The video captures the surprising effect that a mother’s lack of facial expression (hence, “still face”) had on her baby daughter. The baby’s reactions are raw and honest; her brain is not yet developed to where she can hide or mask the reaction she is feeling.
Sitting in the audience was a CEO who recognized that she had a “still face” manager in her organization. This manager was not performing well, and neither was an employee who reported to him. To address the situation, the organization was about ready to let the underperforming employee go. Reflecting on the presentation gave the CEO an idea.
“Still face” managers usually shut down their emotions because they feel threatened in a supervisory situation. As such, they tend to be hyper-focused on tasks when conversing with their employees. Not engaging in conversations that provide social and emotional support negatively affects the relationship between the manager and employee, and is probably more keenly felt by the employee.
There is a cost to the manager, too. The ability to hold conversations that connect is important because such conversations engage the rational part of the brain (i.e. the cortex) and quiet the part of the brain where we are more likely to make rash decisions (i.e. the amygdala).
People follow a “still face” manager because the manager has authority to hire, fire, promote and pay. They don’t, however, follow such a manager because they want to, and that makes all the difference to employee engagement.
The CEO realized the employee’s underperformance was likely due to the inability of the “still face” manager to express emotion and connect with the employee. She moved the manager to a non-supervisory position. The result was that the manager felt and performed better. With a new manager in place, the employee began performing well, too.
Several weeks later, I had lunch with the CEO and Ann Louden, director of the TCU Center for Connection Culture. The CEO told us how grateful she was to have attended the presentation. “It saved two of my people,” she said with a smile.
Michael Lee Stallard speaks, trains, and consults for business, government, healthcare and education organizations. He is President of E Pluribus Partners co-founder of ConnectionCulture.com and author, most recently, of “Connection Culture: The Competitive Advantage of Shared Identity, Empathy and Understanding at Work.” Sign up at no cost to receive his 28-page “100 Ways to Connect” ebook.
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