How do you handle someone trying to change small terms of a deal after it has been struck?
- I accept the change and move on as long as it’s not a huge issue: 36.96%
- I object strongly and hold them to the original terms: 19.36%
- I accept their change as long as they accept new changes of mine: 39.29%
- I call off the whole deal: 4.39%
Beware the manipulator. 77% of you either actively battle against a manipulator’s efforts or try to understand their motivations and avoid the trap they’re setting for you. Most of the rest of you try to get away from them as best you can.
Unfortunately, there are situations where you’ll be challenged to get away — especially if they’re a teammate or a boss. Invest the time in understanding their motivations. Those motives might not make sense to you, but that doesn’t matter. You simply need to understand the motivations and see how their behaviors can harm you or, more productively, how you can resolve whatever the conflict is either by meeting their needs or getting them to look at the situation differently. Regardless of the situation, avoid the temptation to manipulate them in return. Those situations rarely end well.
Mike Figliuolo is managing director of thoughtLEADERS, which includes TITAN — the firm’s e-learning platform. Previously, he worked at McKinsey & Co., Capital One and Scotts Miracle-Gro. He is a West Point graduate and author of three leadership books: “One Piece of Paper,” “Lead Inside the Box” and “The Elegant Pitch.”